I’ve been writing long enough to know that if I’m experiencing an intense emotional state, so are lot of other people. One of the things I do at those times is write about it. This helps me clarify my thoughts and helps me stay on purpose; helping people learn how to be happier.

With the launch of my new book, “happy@work,” nationally this past week, along with the fantastic publicity boost I received on the Fast Company web site, and being the keynote speaker an association event, it has been an emotional week to say the least.

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One of the things I’m learning through this experience is that an intense emotion, whether it’s a happy or unhappy one, is still highly emotional.

Something that stirred up a lot of emotion was realizing how many people, like you, have been helping me, both actively and in the background. The well of gratitude I felt produced an emotional intensity that, while it was all good and better than good, was still an intense emotion and, like any intense energetic state, took some adjusting to.

Whatever is producing intense emotions in your life (hopefully its positive) cannot be denied. You cannot, as the law of attraction dictates, push against something you don’t want, even an emotion. You can’t ignore it or, worse yet, act as if it doesn’t exist. That will just make you neurotic.

In the case of an intense positive emotion, just feel the feelings. Allow yourself to feel the good feelings and accept that you, and I, deserve all the good life has to offer.

In the case of a less-than-positive emotion, the best thing you can do is allow yourself the feeling but, rather than staying in a depressing emotional state, you can reach for the thought that feels better than whatever you’re presently thinking. Doing so will allow you, a little at a time, to raise your dominant vibration to one that is more toward attracting the kinds of emotions you want to experience.

We will experience both good and less-than-good intense emotional states throughout our lives, however, it is something we can learn to take control over. By learning how to change how you feel at any given moment, through the use of positive questions like, “what’s working,” creating a “feel good” music playlist, and other state changing techniques, we can take charge of our emotions and not have them be determined by outside circumstances.

 

If you’ve been following my blog or have read any of my books you can probably imagine how excited I feel on the eve of the launch of my new and, perhaps best book - happy@work - 60 Simple Ways to Stay Engaged and Be Successful.

happy at work book small imageThe book is published by a major publisher, New World Library, one of the most respected names in the publishing industry who also happens to be the publisher of my first book, Handbook to a Happier Life. In addition to being a top ranked publisher they are some of the nicest people I’ve ever had the pleasure to know. 

Personally I’m honored to be in the company of such prominent authors as Eckart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Marc Allen, Shakti Gawain, Richard Carlson, Joseph Campbell, Dr. Bernie Siegel, Michael Gelb, Gay Hendricks, and others. 

I feel as though I’m about to be thrust into a bigger role than I’ve ever ever experienced and, while I’m really looking forward to having a major impact on companies and people’s happiness at work, I have to admit it’s a little daunting too.

Thinking about something Bob Proctor said about our goals puts it into perspective for me. Bob said, “Your most important goals should both excite you and, at the same time, scare you a little. If they don’t, they’re not big enough,” I realize from this that I must be on the right track.

Am I more than a bit nervous about the road ahead? You bet I am but as they say, “bring it on.”

Besides being a really good book, happy@work represents an important new mission for me. I’m not changing my focus away from personal development but I am investing more of my time and energy on helping people in the workplace. 

We are facing a crisis in America. With employee satisfaction and engagement at an all-time low and American businesses losing $550 Billion a year as a result of the lost productivity associated with it, this must change. We are heading down a dangerous path and, if we do not change this situation now, things will continue to worsen. This can result in nothing short of economic disaster.

Over the next few months you’ll be hearing more about our happy@work seminars and training and more about what we’re doing to help companies and their people increase engagement, productivity and happiness at work. 

To begin, I’m asking everyone I know to please help me let people know about the book and companion seminars. We need to change the tone in the workplace in America and we need to do it now.

Look for the book April 8th and, if you work inside a company, please let your management know about the happy@work book and companion programs we have, to help organizations increase employee engagement and productivity and help people feel better about themselves and their work.

Thank you in advance for anything you can do to help. 

Blessings,
Jim

If you’re a regular reader, you have read various commentaries about using your mind to focus on what you want to achieve and the effects of meditation and visualization on your behavior. Since Spring is (finally) here, I thought something to help you with your golf game would be fitting for this week’s post.

A study conducted by Debra Crews, Ph.D., an assistant professor in exercise and sports science at the University of North Carolina, Greensboro, has concluded that your brain waves can determine how well you perform a sports activity.

photo of golfersShe asked 34 skilled golfers to attempt forty foot putts.

Using an EEG machine she found that, immediately prior to their stroke, the better golfers showed a significant decrease in the brains left hemisphere activity and an increase in right hemisphere activity.

It seems that the best golfers would “shut down” the analytical side of their minds by simply focusing on the target and their general “feel” for the shot.

Her follow up study had golfers use three different techniques – visualization, relaxation, and bio feedback. The results?

After bio feedback and visualization sessions, the subjects missed significantly fewer putts, while the relaxation sessions lowered performance. The reason relaxation failed to help is that although you want your body relaxed, your mind needs to be focused.

Golf legend, Arnold Palmer and other professionals have been using these techniques for years. Start your mental rehearsal now and get your golf game up to par.

Action Step

Spend a few minutes sitting quietly, visualizing yourself playing on your favorite course.

As you breathe slowly and deeply, see yourself standing on the tee, looking down at the ball. See yourself taking a perfect swing, hitting the ball perfectly. See it landing exactly where you want it to go. Repeat this process as many times as you desire, each time, hitting a perfect shot. Feel the experience in your body just as if it were happening for real. Remember: your mind does not know the difference between what is occurring in real life and that which is vividly imagined.

 

In the past I’ve written about the ideas of putting yourself in the essence of what you want. For example, if you want to feel rich and successful, go to a high-class hotel even to just have a cup of tea in the lobby. This will put you in the essence of luxury without costing you a lot of money. You can go to a very expensive restaurant and have a glass of wine or mineral water at the bar or table. Again, it does not cost much but puts you in the surroundings of opulence.

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It’s important to remember that you do not have to have abundance to feel abundant. The more you feel abundant and prosperous the more you are in the energy of attracting that which you desire.

Recently it occurred to me that many of us can take this a step further and enjoy the things that we already have. Things that represent what we want to attract into our lives. For example, how many of us use our “good dishes” when there’s no company?

Why not? Don’t we deserve to enjoy what we have too? This occurred to me recently as I was passing through our dinning room, a room we tend to use only for special occasions. In this lovely room, we have a big china closet full of beautiful glassware that, for the most part, just sits around and collects dust. It became obvious to me that one way to attract more luxury and fine things into my life is to use and appreciate those things we already have.

Remember, what you focus on expands. Therefore, by appreciating and being grateful for the luxury you already have, however much or little that may be, you’ll begin to attract more of the same. My wife Georgia and I have made a pact, to use our dinning room, good dishes and all, at least once a month. This is just for the two of us. I don’t care if we’re eating pizza, we’re eating it on the good dishes.

By using and valuing that which you already have, not only will you attract more but you will have had a better experience in the interim.

There is a lot written about the value of working with a coach, however, not everyone is ready to be coached nor is everyone “Coachable.” Take this short quiz to see where you fit.

Here’s a test to see if you’re a candidate to be coached:

checkmarkYou know you’re capable of demonstrating greater results.

checkmarkYou’ve realized that you’re not getting there on your own.

checkmarkYou believe you can create the life you dream of.

checkmarkYou’re open to working with the spiritual laws of the universe and operating from a higher perspective.

checkmarkYou’re ready to do what it takes to reach your goals.

checkmarkYou’re willing to invest in your success.

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If you answered “Yes” to three or more of the above, you’re ready for a coach. Whether you work with me or someone else is up to you.

The unfortunate reality is that the majority of business people are not being coached; by anyone. In a local networking group I was once part of, out of forty members, only two were being coached.

I say “unfortunate” because these people are knowingly or unknowingly limiting their own success. Studies have proven over and over that organizations and individuals who are coached are more successful than the average. Robert Nardelli, former CEO of Home Depot said, “Unless a person is coached, they’ll never realize their potential.”

Now that you’ve realized you’re ready to be coached, the next step is up to you.

If you’d like to explore working with me as your life business coach you can learn more about my coaching services here.