You may have heard some variation of the story about the two men who were moving to a new city and wanted to know about the people who lived there.
The first man visited the city and, approaching one of the town’s elders, asked about the people there. “Well,” said the man, tell me about the people where you live now. What are they like?”
“Well,” the man replied, “they’re rude, unfriendly and generally not very nice to be around. That’s why I’m moving here.”
The elder replied, “I think you’ll find the people here pretty much the same.”
The following week a second man approached the same town elder and asked the same question. Once again, the elder asked about his current location.
The man replied, “They’re terrific. They’re friendly, caring people who always watch out for each other. I’m going to miss them.”
The elder again replied, “I think you’ll find the people here pretty much the same.”
I first learned about the concept of “expectation” many years ago and can honestly say I typically have good experiences as I go through my day-to-day life. I rarely encounter a difficult or unfriendly person.
Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “we teach people how to behave toward us.”
That’s a powerful idea. Your expectation in any situation can have as much do with it’s outcome as any other factors.
This becomes apparent watching a small child and how they act with different people. The child is the same, however depending on the person they’re interacting with, their behavior can be radically different.
With one person, the child is friendly and well behaved, while with another they’re difficult, disobedient, and unpleasant to be around.
Since it’s the same child, one can only deduce that it must be something that’s originating in the other person that is activating the behavior in the child.
It’s the other person’s expectation and their energetic vibration that’s triggering the child’s behavior.
How many times have you had to deal with a situation that you just “knew” was going to be a hassle and, sure enough, it was?
Your “knowing” was enough for the forces of the universe to start creating the situation in response to the vibration you were putting out. You are the Co-creator and have the God-given ability to direct your life.
“As a man (or woman) thinketh in his heart, so is he. ”Proverbs 23:7
If you accept that we create our life then what is it that attracted the situation?
It was your focus and expectation that set up the magnetic energy to attract the difficulty.
When you accept you create your life, you’re willing to give up blame in your life. When you do this, the benefit you receive is power over your own life. You can start choosing to expect things to go smoothly.
Will this work every time? I don’t know, but whether it does or not, you will have more pleasant encounters with the people in your world than you do now. This I do know from many years of, as Mr. Otto suggests below, experimenting with my own life.
“Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life” Herbert Otto
If you want a simple way to begin bringing more pleasant experiences into your life, devote a little time each morning “pre-paving” your day.
Imagine going about your day, seeing everything flowing and working out in your favor.
Feel the lightness of living a life that just flows from activity to activity.
You do not need to include all the specifics of your day.
Simply see and feel the essence of living a joyful day.
As with anything I write, I’m not asking you to just take my word for this.
Incorporate this practice into your “morning quiet time” for a couple of weeks and test it for yourself.
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