You know the game I’m talking about. You’ve seen friends and colleagues playing it. You’ve probably played it yourself more than once.
It’s the game where you tell yourself, and anyone who’ll listen, that “When such and such happens, then I’ll do so and so.”
You say things like, “When I feel better I’ll start taking care of my health.” You delude yourself with statements like, “When I get a raise, then I’ll do a better job.” You hear friends say, “When I have more money, then I’ll be happier.
The problem with seemingly harmless statements like these is that they keep you stuck right where you are. They can never work because you have it backwards.
Feeling better, getting a raise and having more money are all effects, or the result of what you tell yourself. They’re what you think and speak about and the way you feel most of the time.
You may have heard the phrase, “Be, do, have” in personal development circles. It’s an accurate description of how we create in our life.
By “being,” or seeing yourself as feeling better, looking better, you will begin to feel inspired to do some of the things a healthy person would do and, as a result, you will achieve the result of feeling better.
When you become a better employee and start doing the things that a top employee would do, your efforts will be recognized and you’ll be rewarded for them.
When you focus on being happy and feeling good more of the time, you will begin doing more and seeing more opportunities to earn more money.
Your first step then in making whatever change you desire is to begin to imagine yourself as already having achieved the result you want. How would this person “be?” How would they act? How would they treat the people around them?
For example if you’re like most people you’d like to be more successful. One of the traits many successful people share is that they always try to lift people up, never putting anyone down. If becoming more successful is something you want (and why wouldn’t you?), you can start by simply treating everyone you come in contact with a little better. Being friendly and polite costs you nothing but can have a major impact on your success.
Taking this one simple action can do more for your future success than you can even imagine.
Thirty Day Challenge
Make a conscious effort each day to be kinder to everyone you encounter in your day to day life, if only for the next month. Make a habit of saying, “please” and “thank you” when appropriate. Be more considerate while driving and commuting to and from your work. Listen more to your spouse and children. I welcome your comments. Please share your thoughts and experiences about this exercise.
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