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If you happened to watch the New Year’s Eve festivities from New York’s Times Square, you may have seen Mayor Michael Bloomberg being interviewed and heard him say, as far as he is concerned, the operative word for 2009 is “Optimism,” which according to Wikipedia, is an outlook on life such that one maintains a view of the world as a positive place.
I’m with him. It’s about time we had optimistic talk being spread over the airwaves. We’ve certainly had our fill of the other kind.
As with anything else, if we believe this and begin affirming it, we will make it so. It would be really great if the majority of people followed the sentiment of “Mayor Mike,” however, what’s even more important is that each of us affirm it for ourselves.
In truth we can only create our own experience, not the experience of others so, regardless of what the masses choose to do we can start seeing this coming year through a lens of optimism and act accordingly.
No one but you can create your life experience. Not the government, not your employer, not even your spouse. What occurs in your life is totally within your control and is a result of your thoughts, feelings and actions.
If you choose to join with me and Mayor Bloomberg and see this year optimistically, as a year of opportunity and positive expectations, you will, in fact, create your best year ever.
While optimism is a great outlook on life and a key ingredient for success, it’s not all there is. You’ll need a vision of what you want your life to become, specific and measurable goals, an action plan to follow and, hopefully, a mentor or coach to keep you on track.
If you have a coach, great. If not, now would be a good time to get one. Or, if you cannot afford a coach right now, “buddy up”with someone and hold each other accountable. Find someone you feel comfortable sharing your dreams and goals with and arrange to meet with them regularly. This is an important component for success. No one does it alone.
With all the change in the air and the general feelings of hope and possibility being expressed by people from all walks of life, it’s looking like 2009 is going to be a banner year.
As with everything else in nature, there’s an ebb and flow to our life. After last year, I think you’ll agree we’re all ready for the flow to begin. Bring it on!
If you really want to make 2009 your best year ever and are ready to play full out, check out my new tele-seminar program “Live Your Destiny 2009.”
Over the course of the next few days, I’ll be posting a series of articles specifically written to help you start your year off right. If you miss any, or if you’re new to personal development, you can always find the entire series in the “Starting Out” category.
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This is the second in the series of “year end” exercises. In case you missed the first exercise, you can get it here: Write your accomplishments
Before we go on to the fun parts of creating your fabulous vision and plans for the coming year, I’d like you to take a look at everything in your life and list those things you are putting up with that you’d be better off eliminating.
As the title of one of my books points out,This is your life, not a dress rehearsal. You deserve the best life has to offer.
This means having a life where you feel safe in your own home. A life where you are treated well and respected by others. A life that is free from the things you do not wish to experience.
In the filed of professional coaching, there is something called Tolerations. These are the things that, for whatever reason, you tolerate in your life. Sometimes, they’re minor inconveniences like a friend who’s always late for appointments. Sometimes, people tolerate serious things like physical or emotional abuse. You do not have to tolerate that which you do not want or have in your life.
Take some time to look at your life as it is right now. What are you tolerating that you’d rather be rid of? Do you tolerate friends who constantly put you down? Why? Why not surround yourself with people who will support you in your endeavors, whatever they may be. After all, it’s your life, isn’t it?
Do you tolerate a boss who treats you poorly? No one should have to put up with disrespect. Maybe you should have a talk with this person and let them know how you feel. Perhaps, it’s time to look for another position or a career change.
Do you tolerate an abusive parent, spouse or child? Don’t! Go and get some help before it’s too late.
What about your home? Are you tolerating a dirty, cluttered environment when what you really want is a clean, uncluttered one? Change it!
Are you tolerating a dripping faucet or shower? Call a plumber. Do you tolerate an automobile that runs poorly or is unsafe? Have it fixed! Does your bedroom need painting or a carpet cleaning? What are you waiting for?
What are you tolerating in your health? Do you tolerate being overweight and in poor health when you’d really rather be healthy & fit? You’re in control you know. It’s your life and it’s up to you to make it what you want it to be.
Most of these things can be eliminated just by making the time to address them. While some may require you to hire a professional to help, others you can do yourself.
The interesting thing about making a list like this and going through it, item by item, is as you do it, you will feel more and more in control of your life and environment and this powerful feeling will carry over into all areas of your life.
Tolerate nothing. You are in control. This is your life, not a dress rehearsal.
Several years ago, I began a practice of writing my accomplishments at the end of the year I borrowed the idea from the corporate world. In most companies, managers are required to submit a list of their accomplishments and objectives annually. This information is used as the basis for performance reviews, raises, and promotions.
I thought, Hey, if it works for them, maybe it will help me. The sense of personal satisfaction and encouragement I received after doing this once was so great that it has become a regular practice.
We take so much of what we do for granted, or just shrug it off, saying, It’s no big deal. We point to the successes, contributions, and accomplishments of others while overlooking all that we ourselves have done. Only after taking the time to list our own accomplishments and activities do we see that we, too, are making a difference. We realize how much we have actually done in our lives, and this serves to encourage and motivate us to even greater heights.
In your journal, make a list of what you have done in the past year
- Where have you vacationed?
- What plays, movies, or concerts have you seen?
- What books have you read?
- What have you done for and with your family?
- What have you accomplished in your business?
- What about personal goals?
- What have you done for yourself?
- What about your health?
- Have you lost weight,began exercising, or played a sport?
- Did you start a business, write a book, or give a speech?
Write down everything you can think of. The more, the better.
Seeing all you have done will raise your self-esteem and increase the likelihood that you will accomplish even more in the coming year. You have probably done much more than you realize, and writing it down will enable you to see just how much you have accomplished.
Reading self-help and listening to personal development audio programs transformed my life from one of desperation to a life beyond anything I ever expected. And they continue to do so today.
One of the major contributors to the achievements and successes I enjoy today is the fact that I have developed the habit of reading inspiring books and listening to personal development programs regularly.
With so many people uncertain about the economy, job losses mounting and financial news worsening each day, I want to make a special offer on what I believe is an ideal Holiday gift.
I have 14 copies of the CD version of my Stop Living Paycheck to Paycheck audio program remaining. These are the one’s in the big vinyl binder.
When they’re gone, I will be changing the packaging to something smaller.
Since they make an impressive looking gift, not to mention the life changing information they contain, I want to offer you the chance to order one or more at a special “clearance” price.
Well, it’s that time of year again, at least here in the US, when everyone starts talking about being thankful and grateful. Personally, I think that’s great, especially since “like attracts like,” so feeling thankful is a great way to attract more situations and experiences to feel thankful for.
What if you don’t feel particularly thankful right now? What if, like so many people, you’re having a difficult time and are feeling a bit of self pity? Now, along comes Thanksgiving with all if its added pressures and family obligations and you’re faced with all those “grateful” people telling you to count your blessings.
“Bah, humbug!” you say, if you felt like I do, you wouldn’t be so darned smiley.
So just how can you change how you feel even when you’re feeling down and would rather just sit and have a pity party?
Let’s face it, we’ve all been there at one time or another and will probably be there again. We’ve all experienced times when we just did not feel very thankful. I know I have. We have all experienced times when life just seemed to be singling us out for difficulties. What do we do then?
The fastest and most effective way I know to change how you’re feeling about yourself is to get out of yourself. Get out of your own problems and concerns. Go out and do something for someone else. I guarantee you will feel better after doing this.
You could do anything from volunteering to help feed the homeless at a soup kitchen, like President Elect, Barak Obama and his family did, to delivering a bag of groceries to someone in need, or donating some of your unwanted, good condition, clothing, visiting someone in a hospital or nursing home, or any number of things that will enable you to step out of yourself long enough for your perspective to change. You’ll be amazed how much your “problems” have changed when you’re finished.
Following are a couple of other things you can do to make this a happier, more enjoyable holiday season:
Write a list of everything that is good in your life. What’s working? What are you grateful for? Be sure to list every little thing you can think of, the more the better. It’s a fact that a person cannot feel gratitude and be in self pity at the same time.
Refuse to take part in gossip Gossip serves no one. Remember what you give out comes back,. Besides who do you think the gossips are talking about when you’re not there? If you want to be happier and more at peace, choose not to partake. A great practice for family gatherings.
Relax and enjoy your holiday Contrary to what retailers would like you to believe, there’s still lots of time to shop before Christmas. You don’t have to rush to the stores at 5:00 am the day after Thanksgiving just because some companies choose to open at that time.
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At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. Albert Schwietzer
If we’re fortunate, there are people in our life who inspire us and rekindle our flame when we need it most.
“You cannot continue to tell the same story without continuing to live the same circumstances.” Abraham-Hicks
Ignoring reality may seem like a strange suggestion but that’s precisely what we have to do to create change in our lives. It’s really quite simple but can be subtly deceptive.
For example, it is pretty much accepted in psychology that we attract what we focus on or, put another way, our minds move in the direction of our thoughts.
Taking that a step further, it becomes apparent that, in order for our lives to change, we must be focusing on not what is, but rather what we want, hence ignore reality. We must start telling a different story about how our life is.
So many people cling to their “story” about how their life is and why and then wonder why it’s not changing. It can’t!
As long as you’re constantly reinforcing conditions as they are, they cannot change. Only when you are willing to let go of your “story” and start telling yourself a new one, will things on the outside begin to change.
If, for example, you wanted to drop 10 pounds you cannot be talking about how hard it is to lose weight or how overweight you are. You cannot keep looking at how slowly the weight is dropping, if at all.
Instead you have to affirm that you are, in fact, losing the weight and shift your self-talk to that of having already reached your ideal weight. Visualize yourself as already having completed the process.
Affirm, “I am in the process of reaching my ideal weight” (income, lifestyle, or whatever).
Right now, with everything going on in the financial industry, most people have their attention on what’s wrong, how much they’re losing in the market, their bills and how bad things are. The problem here is that they are still holding their attention on the problems. All that can possibly produce are similar conditions; namely problems.
The only way to change this is to notice the abundance you already have and, as like attracts like, you will begin to attract more abundance into your life.
You may have to pretend that everything is getting better. You have to start acting “as if” you are living the life you desire. Start telling yourself how great it is having the body you want, the income you desire or the great relationship you’ve been wanting.
Just doing this for a few minutes a day will “trick” your non-conscious mind into believing it is true and you will soon start to see evidence of your new life showing up. Pay attention to even the slightest sign of your dreams becoming manifest. If you’re affirming an increase in finances and someone buys you lunch, see that as evidence of your new abundance.
This, by the way, is what President Roosevelt did during the depression of the 1930’s and as a result, conditions began changing.
Roosevelt called to the White House the leading positive thinkers of his time, Napoleon Hill, Norman Vincent Peale, etc., and everyone agreed, with the help of the media, to start telling a story of economic recovery.
Following the law of attraction, as people started hearing how things were getting better, they began repeating it and believing it and, sure enough, things did get better. Everything begins with thought and, manifests according to our beliefs.
The quickest way I know of creating positive change in one’s life is to start making “appreciation” or “gratitude” lists each day. By putting your attention on what you appreciate and are grateful for in your life, you put yourself in the energy of attracting more things to appreciate. These, of course, are things you want.
If you doubt what I’m saying, just try it for a few weeks and see what happens. I know, from personal experience, that your life will begin to improve.
I know you have dreams. There are things you want. Things you dream about. But . . . then the little voice in your head comes in and . . well . . . you know the rest.
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