How Worthy Do You Feel?
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In the more than two decades that I have been studying and later writing about personal development, worthiness is something that I have not seen discussed very often. Sure we all talk about dreams, goals, visions and the like, but whether or not you feel worthy of receiving your good will make all the difference in the world.
Perhaps it’s not discussed widely because we make assumptions, “of course I feel worthy.” Or is it that the subject itself is so complex and highly charged?
Whatever the reason, it is the one thing that can sabotage your best efforts and will, most likely, rear its ugly head at the worst possible time. In my live seminars, I often conduct a simple test using Applied Kinesiology (muscle testing). It’s a quick and accurate way to test your inner response to a statement, a food substance, or anything else. You can learn more about this in the book “Power Verses Force” by Dr. David Hawkins.
In my demonstrations, I ask the audience who would like to have a million dollars. Not surprisingly, lots of hands go up. I ask for a volunteer from the audience. When I test them for the phrase, “I would like to receive a million dollars” they typically test strong. However, when we test the phrase, “I deserve to have a million dollars,” most test weak, indicating they are not congruent with the idea.
One of the ways to remedy this is by using an energy releasing technique like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or other energy releasing techniques. You can learn more about EFT at the web site of the person who developed it, Gary Craig, at www.emofree.org
What about you?
Do you fell worthy of receiving your good? Are you open to receiving or are you pushing it away saying things like, “Money is not important.”
Of course it’s important, however, it’s only important for those things for which money is used.
No, it’s not more important than love, but with it, you can do more for your loved ones. No, it’s not more important than health, but with it, you can afford the best heath care.
No, it’s not more important than happiness, but take it from someone who’s been there, it’s a lot easier to be happy when your basic needs are met than it is when you’re struggling just to survive.
The other day I was speaking with a friend about the idea of receiving and feeling worthy. He is also a student of personal development and he shared some interesting ideas with me. When I mentioned to him that it would be great to have a larger sum of money to devote to marketing my new book, he asked me why I didn’t just ask for a benefactor.
Wow! Talk about having your comfort zone and beliefs challenged! I could not in my wildest imagination see myself doing this. It made me way to uncomfortable. I guess I haven’t master worthiness either.
What I did do however, having seen it on Steve Pavlina’s Web site, was to add a “donate” button on my web site and blog. Steve, by the way, writes some great personal development articles.
This made me so uncomfortable that it’s been more than a week and I haven’t told anyone about it until now.
Since I believe we need to do the things that we are uncomfortable doing, I am telling you. I used to have a button from a Tony Robbins seminar that read, “If I can’t, then I must.” I guess it stuck.
What about you? Do you feel worthy of receiving the good that God wants to give you? When a friend offers to buy you dinner, do you graciously accept or do you feel it necessary to say, “Let’s split the check?”
One way to get better at receiving, is to practice simply saying “thank you” when someone offers to do something for you or pays you a compliment and let them.
Remember that giving and receiving are two polarities on the same continuum and it is just as important to receive, as it is to give.
Most of us have been taught that it’s better to give than receive, maybe so but receiving is important also. One thing I learned, after writing this newsletter for more than 19 years, is that if I’m facing a personal challenge, chances are, other people are as well. Therefore, let’s all work on being better receivers of the abundance that is part of God’s Divine plan for us all.
“I have come that you should have life; and that you should have it abundantly.” John 10:10
Please post your comments below. I look forward to reading your opinion on this volatile issue that seems to affect so many people.
Great article. I agree 100% personal development is a must for any human being wanting to excel at life. If we all focused on this the world would be a better place. I have been dedicated to personal development for almost 10 years and it feels good to read some new content. Keep up the good work and feel free to post a comment and sitelink on my personal development blog. Thanks -David http://www.motivationandhappiness.com
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Bonnie,
Glad to have hit a nerve:-)
I’m not sure that, for me, it’s a matter of being “too humble” but more the result of steadily working to grow. It’s kind of like peeling an onion.
I think worthiness in particular is something we evolve rather than just arrive at. There are many levels of feeling worthy. For example, I live a life today that years ago I could not even have imagined much less allowed to occur.
As we learn to accept, we learn to allow more and more good to come into our lives.
I’ve always liked something Wayne Dyer said, “My life is a work of art in progress.”
Yes, I’m totally agree your view of Money is not important before it’s used.
Thanks for your sharing, always bring me some new idea.
Ouch! You hit a sore spot. Am I worthy of wealth and prosperity? I need to make some shifts here! And I appreciate your frankness in admitting that you found it hard to put a “Donate” button on your blog and website. I’ve been reading your posts for about a year and I would have assumed you were “past” the issue of worthiness. It goes to show that someone doing good in the world can be “too humble!” Again, thanks for this post.