It sounds simple but knowing what you want is one key to success
ByIf you’ve read any of the law of attraction books or watched the movie, The Secret, you’ve probably heard that the first step in attracting what you want is to identify what you do not want. As strange as this may sound, it’s usually pretty easy for most people. We’re conditioned to look at what we don’t want so identifying them is simple.
If you’ve completed the “Tolerations” activity previously, you’ll find this to be similar. If not, please go back and do that as well as the activity about “Appreciation.” They’ll help you gain momentum for what’s to come.
Take a sheet of paper and list everything you do not want in your life. Your list may run the gamut from not wanting to be broke, to not wanting to feel lousy all the time, to not wanting to date jerks. Take a good look at each area of your life – spiritual, mental, physical, social, career and finance, and decide what it is you do not want in relation to this part of your life experience.
Doing this is the easiest way to begin to identify what it is you do want, for it is usually the exact opposite. For example, if what you don’t want is an old car that breaks down all the time, it stands to reason that what you do want is a nice, clean, reliable automobile.
If, on your “don’t want” list you’ve written something like, “I don’t want to feel lousy and be fat” (something a lot of us can relate to this time of year), on your “do want” list, you might write “to be thin, fit, healthy and filled with energy.”
Later you’ll want to use this list as the basis for your new goals program and daily affirmations.
What else do you want? If you really dig deep into what will leave you feeling fulfilled and happy, you will uncover all sorts of things you may have forgotten about.
When making your “do want” list, think about what you want to be, do, have and share. If you want a real challenge, do the “101 wishes” exercise from Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen’s wonderful book, The Alladin Factor. This is something my wife, Georgia, tried and had trouble getting past 40.
I can tell you from personal experience that doing this will really stretch you and is well worth taking the time to complete. By the time you’ve passed the initial 20 or 30 things, you’ll be getting back in touch with many dreams you probably forgot you even had.
Speaking of dreams, so many of us start out the year with a bang but then, sometimes in less than a month, find ourselves caught up in our day to day life.
One of the things that made all the difference for me was having a system to follow and a support group to keep me on track. If you’re one of those people who would really like to make 2009 a banner year, take a close look at my new Destiny 2009 mentoring program. Even if you saw this earlier, I’ve made a lot of changes, so please take another look.
Would you like to add $100 a day in 2009?
A lot of people this time of year are thinking about their finances. One of the best ideas I’ve learned over the years is to have more than one income stream. I make a habit of adding at least one income stream each year. Doing this is easier than you might think, especially with the Internet and if you have a tried and true system to follow. This will show you not one but 20 different ways you can earn more money or even, as in my case, improve upon something you’re already doing.
Thanks for the keen insight and pointers, Jim! Sounds like a good plan for 2009.