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Even if you have not written your goals down, and I certainly hope you have, or even if you think that you don’t have any goals (you do), the more clarity you have with regard to what you want, the more likely it is you will have it.

The young woman in my workshop said, “I want a new house!” So far so good. “What type of house do you want? Where do you want to live?” I asked. 

“I don’t care. I just want my own house.” What do you think the chances are that she will manifest it? If you said “slim,” you are right. I can imagine God asking her the same question to which she replies the way she did to me. I can also imagine God saying, “When you figure out what you want, let me know and I will deliver it to you.” And walking away in frustration.

 If your child came to you and asked for a toy, you would probably ask, “What kind?” And then do your best to give it to her or him. We are God’s children and He wants to give us what we ask for, but … we have to ask! 

The clearer you are about what you want, the more descriptive and detailed your desire, the easier it will be to manifest it. In my seminars, I teach people that if they want a car, for example, to get clear as to the type, model, color, and as much detail as possible. 

To engage other senses, especially for material things like cars, I suggest getting a photo of the item and putting it where it will be seen. Better yet, go to a dealership and ask a salesperson to take a picture of you sitting in the car of your dreams. This is the same as making a “dream board” or “treasure map,” something I have been using and teaching for years. 

If it’s a special relationship that you want to attract, make a list of the chief characteristics and traits of your ideal partner. In your business, you can use this same idea and list the characteristics of your perfect customer. If you want to dive deeper into this from a business application, I recommend the book Attracting Perfect Customers by Stacey Hall and Jan Brogniez.

Once you have become clear as to exactly what you want, you move on to the “asking part.” The Bible says “ask and it is given.” Notice that it does not say “beg or whine.”

An ideal way to ask is by using affirmative prayer, a technique I learned from Catherine Ponder, one of the great teachers of our time. She suggest giving thanks that it is already complete by using an affirmative prayer such as “I give thanks that my financial income now increases mightily, through the direct action of God’s rich good .” 

By invoking affirmative prayer, you are giving thanks and affirming your belief that what you asked for is in fact given unto you. 

The simple process is:

- Identify what you want in as much detail as possible. 
- Be thankful for having received it. 
-Remain open to allowing it to come to you. 
- Act on whatever inspiration you receive

Notice that nowhere do I suggest that you have to figure out how. That’s not your job. Your job is to identify it and let it in. Most people ask, beg actually, from a position of lack. This violates the law of attraction. You cannot attract something by focusing on the absence of it. This is a subtle but powerful distinction.