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This is the second in the series of “year end” exercises. In case you missed the first exercise, you can get it here:  Write your accomplishments

Before we go on to the fun parts of creating your fabulous vision and plans for the coming year, I’d like you to take a look at everything in your life and list those things you are putting up with that you’d be better off eliminating. 

As the title of one of my books points out, This is your life, not a dress rehearsal. You deserve the best life has to offer.

This means having a life where you feel safe in your own home. A life where you are treated well and respected by others. A life that is free from the things you do not wish to experience.

In the filed of professional coaching, there is something called Tolerations. These are the things that, for whatever reason, you tolerate in your life. Sometimes, they’re minor inconveniences like a friend who’s always late for appointments. Sometimes, people tolerate serious things like physical or emotional abuse. You do not have to tolerate that which you do not want or have in your life. 

Take some time to look at your life as it is right now. What are you tolerating that you’d rather be rid of? Do you tolerate friends who constantly put you down? Why? Why not surround yourself with people who will support you in your endeavors, whatever they may be. After all, it’s your life, isn’t it? 

Do you tolerate a boss who treats you poorly? No one should have to put up with disrespect. Maybe you should have a talk with this person and let them know how you feel. Perhaps, it’s time to look for another position or a career change.

Do you tolerate an abusive parent, spouse or child? Don’t! Go and get some help before it’s too late.

What about your home? Are you tolerating a dirty, cluttered environment when what you really want is a clean, uncluttered one? Change it! 

Are you tolerating a dripping faucet or shower? Call a plumber. Do you tolerate an automobile that runs poorly or is unsafe? Have it fixed! Does your bedroom need painting or a carpet cleaning? What are you waiting for?

What are you tolerating in your health? Do you tolerate being overweight and in poor health when you’d really rather be healthy & fit? You’re in control you know. It’s your life and it’s up to you to make it what you want it to be. 

Most of these things can be eliminated just by making the time to address them. While some may require you to hire a professional to help, others you can do yourself. 

The interesting thing about making a list like this and going through it, item by item, is as you do it, you will feel more and more in control of your life and environment and this powerful feeling will carry over into all areas of your life.

Tolerate nothing. You are in control. This is your life, not a dress rehearsal.

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